Love

[frualeydis]

Last night Rickard and I lay awake for a long time, talking about love. When we fell in love, the first kiss, when we knew it was love etc. I am now sleepy but very happy.



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Comments

[http://users.livejournal.com/aure_/]

That's so sweet! You really seem to be very happy together. How long have you been together?

[frualeydis.livejournal.com]

That is a very hard question to answer. We were actually interested in each other while I was still together with the twins' dad, before they were born, back in 1993. Nothing came out of it though. Then, around 1996 we fell in love. The twins' dad and I were stil together, but the realtionship wasn't very good. So it's not because of Rcikard we split, though he may have had some catalytic effect. On the other hand I probably wouldn't have fallen in love with him if I had had a functioning relationship. Then the twins' dad and I broke up in autumn 1997, though I didn't get my own flat until february 1998. So the official date for when our relationship started is the first of February 1998.
There was, however, a serious down period in 2002, which mademe think that Rickard didn't love me and that I was in love with another man. Well I was in love, but I still loved Rickard and this crisis really brought us much closer together. Since then so many realtionship issues and patterns I've had in my life (and his) have just disappeared and we do have a wonderful relationship. And next week we've been married for five years.

/Eva

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Congratulations for five years in marriage!

These things are complex. Of course, one doesn't fall in love with someone else in a healthy relationship, but even that can be worked out, if partners still love each other. I think that's the difference between the twins' dad and Rickard. I've been through a somewhat similar situation, where I wasn't in love with anyone else, but I was in such a state of mind that I could have been. It was really hard experience, but in the end made me realize how much I still loved (and love!) my boyfriend.

[frualeydis.livejournal.com]

The best thing of all (especially because of the kids) is that we all still are friends, including the ex's new wife, who's a wonderful and fun person.

/Eva

[http://users.livejournal.com/aure_/]

That is wonderful (and regrettably rare)!

[(Anonymous)]

And including yon "other man"...

// The Other Guy, pretty content with the way things turned out

[chargirlgenius.livejournal.com]

I love those evenings, where you relive your first glance, first kiss, first seduction, etc.

*Happy*