I am so pissed off!

[frualeydis]

Five minutes before my lecture was scheduled to end, at one o'clock, this 50-60-ish man walks in the auditorium. It's not so strange and wasn't disturbing me so I continued wrapping up my lecture. Three minutes before one he just cuts in and tells me that I have to stop immediately, since his lecture is about to start and he needs the preparation time. I point to the clock on the wall and tells him that it's three minutes left and he says that his clock is one so I just have to stop. I pointed out that I followed the university's clock but he just told me to shut up. Well, not in those exact words, but about as rude.
I was chocked and angry so I just said that "Okay, then we're missing the final two sentences" took off the microphone and locked it in the cupboard and left.
But now I'm so angry! His lecture doesn't start until 13.15 and even if he needed the preparation time I had the right to continue until my lecture ended.
And I'm so angry because he NEVER would have treated a male teacher that way, never!
And I just want to confront him about this, but since he's teaching for another three hours it's not practical, I'm not going to lay in wait for him when he finish. I may write a note to his department, but I don't know what good that would do.

Comments

Write a letter to his dept. head!

[estela-dufrayse.livejournal.com]

Oh please stand up for yourself. This so has to stop in academia...what did he just teach to all of your students? To treat you, and probably other ladies like you with total disrespect.

Hopefully, by writing this down in your journal, it has taken some of the stress out of your body and you can feel better...but you should still follow up.

Good Luck!

[myralea.livejournal.com]

what!?!!

my sympathies. and yes, a complaint to someone. even if it does not feel like it will do any good. all small complaints might accumulate and maybe someday they will be taken into account.

... even if you had overdrawn your lecture time with a couple of minutes, you should have been treated with respect! he could have asked KINDLY.

/m

Write to his dept head

[joyeuse60.livejournal.com]

Guys like this cannot be allowed to continue to behave in such thoughtless ways, or we just send the same lesson to the next generation and do you want your daughter to have to deal with that later on? No write the letter. It may not get a response or any action this time, but it will be on his record and if he (or other male lecturers) behave in such a disparaging fashion he will be called to task. Several complaints will get a result, and it may be that your letter is the one that tips the balance towards this gentleman (using the word loosely) gets called to task on his behavior. If we never complain then nothing will ever improve

[liadethornegge.livejournal.com]

*grr* What an ASS!

Reading that I feel like slapping the snot out of him for you.

[systemgoddess.livejournal.com]

I say write the letter and send a copy to his Dean as well. That was rude behavior at its worst and deserves to be followed up. You don't have to take it.

[flummoxicated.livejournal.com]

I agree with the other commenters, write a letter.

[idahoswede.livejournal.com]

Letter, letter, letter. What an appalling lack of manners and respect.

[pralinesssan.livejournal.com]

Seriously,what's his problem!? He's not even supposed to be there before your lecture has ended. And preparation time, my ass! Fifteen minutes should be more than enough. THis just makes me angry, too. Go write that letter!

Mensch!!

[valina-anne.livejournal.com]

How infuriating!

It's a shame how one persons pettiness can upset your whole day. Write the letter to his department - just so you get it off your chest. And you never know, it might make that man think twice before talking down to someone again.

[clothsprogs.livejournal.com]

Don't just write a letter - go to his department and enquire as to who tyou should see to put in put in an official complaint about him and make the complaint in person, followed up by a letter.

Whatever you do, however, *don't* let him get away with it.

Teddy

[therru.livejournal.com]

I'm joining the choir -- don't just let it slip by, make a fuss! If you feel that it will make no difference, that's not true. Every action and reaction makes a difference, however small, even if it's just in the bigger picture. The tiniest step forward is a movement in the right direction. Många bäckar små! And you'll probably feel better for doing it, and that's worth a lot. Go you!

[babylon-goo.livejournal.com]

That guy is terrible, I'm so sorry.

Send your letter registered so they can't say that they didn't get a letter and do nothing. Beleive me when crazy stuff like this happens people like to sweep it under the rug.

[ginger-dragon.livejournal.com]

How exeeddingly rude! He deserve a smack, verbal and otherwise. I well understand that you are angry!

*hugs*

[chargirlgenius.livejournal.com]

GAH! I agree, I want to smack him. I hope you write the letter, and he gets something bad.

Who teaches in the room after him?

[edmndclotworthy.livejournal.com]

Nah, sod the letter.

I'd butt in 3 minutes before the end of HIS lecture and replay the whole scene back to him.

[missrebeckah.livejournal.com]

you should write a letter for sure! Tell his superiors what a jerk he is and get him in trouble. There's no excuse to be as rude as he was.

[merastra.livejournal.com]

Wow. Just reading about what he did makes me angry.

I agree with Teddy here. Make sure to follow up. Situations do tend to get deprioritized, swept under the rug, etc.

My gut reaction is to react as a man might act. Sadly, that's probably to cuss the guy out. I suppose a polite response is better. eg, "It's a shame that the university only permits you 10 minutes of preparation time. I have a talk to conclude now so please bring this up with the scheduling committee."

[twe.livejournal.com]

How rude! Definitely complain, or it will happen again.

[myladyswardrobe.livejournal.com]

I agree with Edmund - interrupt HIS lecture but also send a letter of complaint!

[frualeydis.livejournal.com]

That was my initial idea, but I had to get home to do some stuff before we went to a football game.

Eva

[tattycat.livejournal.com]

I also agree. And a small thought-- does the door to your lecture room lock from the inside? I had a "colleague" who consistently interrupted my lectures until I started locking the door.

[love3angle.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I like the two-pronged approach. :-)

If he needs more than 15 minutes to prepare then 1) he isn't ready to lecture, and 2) he should have notified whoever scedules the room that hee needs 30 minutes or whatever. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior to another professional/human being.

[amonik.livejournal.com]

You should probably write to his department that they should give this guy a raise so he can afford a watch that keeps time better. And also, I'm incredibly angry and (sadly) not the least bit surprised.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, you HAVE to do something about this! Send that letter to the appropriate people at his departemnt and then pay his a visit at his office and tell him that what he did is not acceptable, and inform him that you have sent the letter. By the way, don't mention anything about how he probably wouldn't have done the same thing to a man, that will probably make him not take you seriously. Unfortunately that's usually the case, however disguisting that may be. Do not let this lie!

/Katarina