I'm not pretty anymore
Oct. 3rd, 2005 12:46 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
frualeydisSo I went to a bar with some friends on saturday. It was fun (first time for two years or so), but I also made a discovery: I'm not attractive anymore! Nobody looked at me or talked to me!
This is not something that has come suddenly, only my understanding of it. It explains a lot of my experiences the last 8 years or so, both when going out and on other social occasions. When I was younger I was, maybe not very pretty, but attractive and I could always count on some male attention when I went to bars, discos, parties etc. The last years I could just as well have been invisible. And it's not that I'm shy or anything, as you probably know, they're just not interested.
I don't like this. In this specific case it wasn't that I was older since most people were around 40 or above and the youngest probably in their late twenties. I admit that I am fatter than a lot of people, but not that fat. I also had less make-up, but that hasn't scared people before. So there I was, feeling reasonably pretty, with a nice v-neck opening and something to show in it ;) and loose, long hair and no-one even looked at me!
What's wrong with me???
I don't want to meet someone, I'm happy as it is, but it would be nice if people at least noticed me. Sometimes you need to feel pretty.
This is not something that has come suddenly, only my understanding of it. It explains a lot of my experiences the last 8 years or so, both when going out and on other social occasions. When I was younger I was, maybe not very pretty, but attractive and I could always count on some male attention when I went to bars, discos, parties etc. The last years I could just as well have been invisible. And it's not that I'm shy or anything, as you probably know, they're just not interested.
I don't like this. In this specific case it wasn't that I was older since most people were around 40 or above and the youngest probably in their late twenties. I admit that I am fatter than a lot of people, but not that fat. I also had less make-up, but that hasn't scared people before. So there I was, feeling reasonably pretty, with a nice v-neck opening and something to show in it ;) and loose, long hair and no-one even looked at me!
What's wrong with me???
I don't want to meet someone, I'm happy as it is, but it would be nice if people at least noticed me. Sometimes you need to feel pretty.
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Date: 2005-10-03 11:51 am (UTC)Jeg mener ikke bare ren desperasjon, jeg får inntrykk av at det er nok å legge merke til at man ikke får oppmerksomhet, for at det skal forårsake en (uønsket) psykisk reaksjon hos andre, - så sant de ikke kjenner deg vel og merke.
Klart, - om man ser gift ut, ser man kanskje vagt avvisende ut? For meg er det i alle fall alltid slik at om jeg har en kjæreste, synes tilfeldige fremmede at jeg er tiltrekkemde, mens om jeg ikke har det, synes de det ikke. Synd det ikke er omvendt.